The ‘Someday’ Project
A Video Podcast for the Midlife Woman Ready to Move Her Life Off Hold.
How many things are currently sitting on your “someday” list?
“Someday, I’ll finally focus on what I want.”“Someday, I’ll travel solo.”“Someday, when the kids are settled and the schedule clears.”
We treat “someday” like it’s a real destination on the calendar. We use it to soften the discomfort of putting ourselves on the shelf while we spend our decades over-functioning for everyone else—performing, delivering, and caretaking.
But as a psychotherapist and a death doula, I have spent tens of thousands of hours sitting with individuals navigating massive life transitions. And if there is one undeniable truth facing mortality teaches us about life, it is this:
“Someday” is a myth. And you don’t have forever.
The feeling of being lost in midlife isn't a personal development failure. It’s an identity crisis. The old operating systems that kept you acceptable and "good" aren't working anymore, and you are being invited into the messy middle of becoming who you actually are.
The Outer Edge Meets the Inner World
We do not think our way into a new way of living; we act our way into a new way of thinking.
The “Someday” Project is a bi-weekly video podcast that serves as an honest, real-world laboratory for midlife reinvention. Together, we explore a singular mechanism for growth: When we challenge ourselves externally, what are we uncovering about our inner worlds?
Whether I am unpacking the psychological weight of solo walking 150km across Spain, confronting my mind’s self-limiting voices during a grueling half-marathon training run, or tackling the deep anxiety of leaving a text message unanswered for four hours to reclaim my time—every episode bridges real physical and emotional action with deep therapeutic insight.
We dive headfirst into the messy, beautiful reality of:
Dismantling the “good girl” conditioning without blowing up the lives we love.
Navigating shifting marriages, adult children boundaries, and changing communities.
Using the reality of our finite mortality to wake up, get intentional, and stop waiting for a "perfect day."
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You are not broken. You are not stuck. You are just in the process of becoming the woman who finally lives by her own values and stops outsourcing her worth.
She exists. It's time you got to know each other.
Find us at https://www.youtube.com/@timetolivelifefully as well as other places (Spotify and Apple Podcasts) where you enjoy your podcasts.
Episode 2: Lost and Found: The Four Seasons of Self (And Why Fall is Your Moment)
When was the last time someone asked you what you wanted... and you actually had an answer? Not what your kids need. Not what your boss expects. Not what would make everyone else happy. Just you. What do you want?
If that question made you squirm a little, welcome to Fall.
Here's the uncomfortable truth nobody tells you: You didn't lose yourself by accident. You were supposed to lose yourself. Summer—that chaotic season of building careers, raising kids, being everything to everyone—required you to put yourself last. And you did it brilliantly. You became the glue, the reliable one, the caretaker. You performed the hell out of those roles.
But now? Those roles don't fit anymore. Your kids don't need you the same way. The career that used to define you feels hollow. The marriage you built around roles instead of Core Selves is rubbing you raw. And you're standing there thinking, "Who the hell am I without all of this?"
That's not a breakdown. That's Fall doing exactly what it's designed to do—stripping away what no longer serves you so you can finally see who you actually are underneath.
In this episode, I break down the Four Seasons of life and why Fall (ages 42-65) is your transformation season—the one where you finally get permission to stop performing and start becoming. This is where the real work begins, and honestly? It's where all the good stuff happens.
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Season 1. Episode 1: Say Hello to Your Future Self
She already exists. Your future self isn't some stranger you're trying to become—she's the woman you already know yourself to be, standing just a little further down the path, waiting for you to catch up.
You'll learn why your future self isn't built in big moments, but in the unglamorous Tuesday mornings when you choose to show up anyway. Why "My future self will be grateful for what I choose today" might be the most powerful reframe you adopt this year. And why, if you're in your Fall season (ages 42-65), this practice matters more than ever.
This is about becoming the woman you already know yourself to be—one choice at a time.
In this episode:
The practice of writing to (and hearing from) your future self
Why Tuesday mornings matter more than New Year's resolutions
How to ask: "What does she need me to choose today?"
Why midlife is the perfect time to start building her
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